Why bad things can happen to good people when we withhold our truths

IMG_1365Most of us are aware of the possible negative consequences of being fully honest with others. Conflict, anger, and damaged relationships readily come to mind.

But we are often less aware of the bad things that can happen when we withhold our truths to avoid the negative consequences we fear. For example:

• Others are deprived of the benefits of our perspective and experience.

• Important problems are not acknowledged and resolved.

• Trust is damaged.

• Collaboration deteriorates because of a lack of trust.

• Our physical, emotional, and spiritual health may be harmed.

• We are more likely to think that others are also not telling their truths.

• Our integrity is diminished because others are aware that we are not being fully honest.

When teachers and administrators consistently withhold their truths they enable a downward spiral of energy, trust, and meaningful collaboration.

As a result, teaching, learning, and relationships suffer. Which means students suffer.

Bad things do indeed happen to good people when we withhold our truths.

3 Responses to “Why bad things can happen to good people when we withhold our truths”


  1. 1 Jamie October 17, 2013 at 8:08 am

    So true, Dennis. There are also bad things that happen to us when we withhold our truths. We carry a burden that weighs us down, diminishes our energy and adds stress to our lives.


  1. 1 Courageous Conversations | bachwords Trackback on October 23, 2013 at 1:29 pm

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