Being our best selves


We have a choice about where to aim the lens of our attention. We can relive past injustices, settle old grudges and nurse festering sores. We can imagine failure, build up its potential for destruction, calculate its odds. Or, we can imagine the generous outcomes we’re working on, feel gratitude for those that got us here and revel in the possibilities of what’s next. – Seth Godin

Feelings and attitudes are contagious and can quickly spread throughout a group or community.

Leaders’ feelings and attitudes are particularly infectious and are determined, in large part, by where they focus their attention.

For instance, school and classroom leaders who spread positive emotions and attitudes focus on:

• problem solving and growth instead of complaints,

• talking with people (integrity) instead of about them (gossip),

• efficacy instead of resignation to the status quo,

• gratitude and appreciation instead of negativity,

• strengths instead of deficits, and

• creating a desired future instead of lamenting and acquiescing to a future being created by others.

The list could go on…

To put it simply, leaders who spread positive energy consistently focus on being their best selves, both for their own benefit and for the benefit of those with whom they interact in their personal and professional lives.

What is missing from my list?

I will be taking a sabbatical over the next few months to refresh and renew. Best wishes for an enjoyable summer (or winter if you happen to be Down Under)!

12 Responses to “Being our best selves”

  1. 1 Lynn Seay May 25, 2016 at 6:47 am

    Thank you for your wisdom and weekly motivation, Dennis! I am grateful for this virtual medium that allows me to continue to learn from you. Enjoy the time you are taking to recharge. I hope to do the same very soon. All my best, Lynn

  2. 3 VickyVicky May 25, 2016 at 7:00 am

    This is exactly the post I needed today. Exactly. Thank you and enjoy your retreat,

  3. 5 Jpk May 25, 2016 at 7:53 am

    I’d add–Be in the moment rather than wishing for what is not with us just now.

    Enjoy your sabbatical, Dennis. I’ll miss your wisdom, yet am grateful that you are giving this gift to yourself.

  4. 7 Syndee Malek May 25, 2016 at 10:11 am

    Hi Dennis!

    I WILL MISS YOU! Enjoy your renewal and know you have touched many lives in Wayne County!!!!


    Syndee Malek, Ed.S.
    Leadership Development Consultant
    Wayne RESA
    Office: 734.334.1440
    Cell: 734.748.8040

  5. 9 Suzanne Pettifer (@PettiferSuz) May 25, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I am happy you are taking time for yourself! Looking forward to your return. I can not tell you how much your efforts impact my thinking.

  6. 11 Kent Peterson May 25, 2016 at 11:20 am

    Outstanding set of ideas and suggestions. School leaders should take these to heart and reflect on their approach to staff and students.

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