Being more compassionate with ourselves


[S]elf-directed compassion triggers the same physiological systems as receiving care from other people. Treating ourselves in a kind and caring way has many of the same effects as being supported by others…. Just as importantly, self-compassion eliminates the additional distress that people often heap on themselves through criticism and self-blame. —Mark Leary

While we cannot always control the things that happen to us, we do have a great deal of influence over how we respond to those things.

One of the best examples of that influence is the self-care we can give to ourselves during difficult times.

While many of us find it difficult to practice self-care, it is often as simple as extending to ourselves the same kindness and compassion we extend to others.

The fundamental question is: What kindness would I offer to others right now if they were experiencing my challenge, and how might I offer that caring to myself?

How do you or could you extend to yourself the kindness and caring you offer others?

8 Responses to “Being more compassionate with ourselves”

  1. 1 Jim Knight September 7, 2016 at 10:35 am

    One small idea here is one I’ve learned from Brene Brown, which is to separate guilt and shame. Guilt is, “oh boy, I screwed up.” Shame is, “oh boy, I suck.” One kind of self-care, when I comes to what drags us down is to keep this distinction in mind.

  2. 3 Pats Yahoo September 7, 2016 at 10:39 am

    Fantastic!!! And very appropriate any day, but especially at this ” back – to – school” time!!! M/SS

    Sent from my iPhone


  3. 5 Kent Peterson September 8, 2016 at 10:35 am

    A powerful and meaningful comment on caring. Leaders should read this!

  4. 7 melaniefellmanwrites September 12, 2016 at 9:49 am

    It is just as important to be kind, encouraging, and supportive to self as it is to behave in this manner to others. If we are always putting ourselves down we will never reach the potential God has for us.

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