Make a life in which you are having the conversations you want to have.” — Laura Mott
Resilient people are proactive, and one of the ways they demonstrate that quality is by creating conversations that matter to them with their families and friends and in their work settings.
Think of those conversations as “big” rather than “small.”
While small talk has important purposes, large talk matters because it is far more likely to produce meaningful learning and to strengthen relationships.
During these conversations participants come to understand important things about themselves, each other, and the subject under discussion.
The world would be a better place, I believe, if such conversations were more frequently cultivated in families and the workplace.
In an earlier post I wrote that conversations for learning require:
• deep and mindful listening,
• slowness that provides opportunities for thinking and elaboration,
• an openness to learning based on a deep respect for the experiences and perspectives of others, and
• an invitation, which may be as simple and straight forward as “please tell me more.” (Australian educator Edna Sackson explains how even difficult conversations can be improved when they begin with such invitations.)
What “requirements” would you add to my list?