Posts Tagged 'intentionality'

Qualities of resilient people

We never know how our small activities will affect others through the invisible fabric of our connectedness. In this exquisitely connected world, it’s never a question of  “critical mass.” It’s always about critical connections. —Grace Lee Boggs

Resilient people: 

• Are intentional. That is, they are “on purpose” rather than reactive.

Understand that what they do today affects tomorrow. That is, they understand that all things are connected in sometimes subtle and often profound ways.

Display integrity in all areas of life. Because they are honest and keep their promises, people trust them.

Are clear and forthright in assessing current reality, which helps them better understand the root causes of problems and evaluate the actions that are necessary to solve them.

• Align their daily actions with their values and most important goals.

• Are hopeful for a better future which they are motivated to help create.

As a result of these qualities, resilient people are influential, which in turn often thrusts them into leadership roles.

What would you add to this list?

Intentionality and habits


People do things because they want to (intentions). Their motivation comes from a desire to create something that does not now exist.

People do things because they believe they have to (obligations). Their motivation often comes from guilt.

And people do things because they have always done them that way (habits). Often those habits are long standing and were not consciously chosen, which means they may not support current intentions.

The world would be a better place, I believe, if

  • people did more things that were motivated by intention rather than obligation,
  • and if antiquated habits were replaced by those that were consciously chosen to serve intentions.

What do you think—are intentions and consciously-chosen habits trustworthy sources of guidance and energy?

To plan or not to plan? Is that the question?


I’ve heard it said, “Plan as if you will live forever, and live today as if you will die tomorrow.” Of course, if we live today as if there is no tomorrow we will not do a very good job of taking care of forever.

That is but one of the tensions between living an intentional  life and one that is more spontaneous and lived in the moment.

Here is another:

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans,” John Lennon wrote in his song, “Beautiful Boy.”

True. Life has a way of confounding our best-laid plans.

It’s also true that life happens to us when we make no plans. But it may not be the life we want.

Here’s how I reconcile those seemingly competing views that play themselves out in both our personal and professional lives:

Make plans, but hold them loosely. Our lives are generally better when we have goals and make plans, although life has a way of surprising us.

Our lives are more in tune with our values and goals when we make plans, as long as we remember that we don’t always get everything we want.

How do you reconcile the tension between the value of planning and the uncertainties of life?


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